Understanding Spiritual Awareness & Personal Transformation
Vital Health Zone is proud to announce Gini Grey, who is our resident spiritual awareness and personal transformation expert and who is available to answer all your questions about spiritual awareness and personal empowerment in all areas of your life.
Gini has a private practice and is available for consultation in a number of ways.
Gini answers all your spiritual awareness and personal transformation questions below:
Q: How do I deal with negative people who are aggressive in their manner without completely ignoring them, in the office, especially when I have to deal with them on a daily basis. If they are rude to me, I don't know how to handle it other than to be rude back or ignore them, but both of these methods makes me feel upset as it isn't a good situation to have to deal with.
Is there any other way of dealing with this that is better for me?
A: Thank you for your question. It's an important one that many people will benefit by reading.
I've discovered over the years that difficult situations and challenging people cross our path for a purpose - to offer an opportunity for insight and growth. Negative, aggressive, rude people are no exception - they are there to show us where we give our power away, where we lose patience or kindness, and what longs for attention within us.
How do you feel when a person is rude and aggressive with you? Does it trigger fear, sadness or anger? Get in touch with that feeling and ask yourself what help to soothe that feeling. If you feel fear, you might need to touch into the feeling of empowerment within you. If you feel small and sad it might help to remind yourself how big and grown-up you are. If you feel angry, perhaps you need to respect yourself on a deeper level so you are not triggered when someone else disrespects you.
When we are so filled with our own self-love, self-appreciation and self-esteem, we are not triggered so easily by the way others treat us. As you give these things to yourself you might be amused the next time a person acts rudely to you. Sometimes people are being rude to get a reaction out of us or to make us feel small. If we refuse to be offended or feel small, they stop being rude as it doesn't give them what they want any more.
Another suggestion is to look past this person's rude behavior to the woundedness underneath. What might have happened to them as a child that led to their current mood and behaviour. If they are rude all the time, they are most likely not very happy. As you look at them from this perspective you will feel compassion for them and not be triggered by them.
The next step is to look past the woundedness of this person to the spark of divine light within them. Each of us is a spiritual being so try to see who they are on that level. This might help you to have a heart-to-heart connection with them, which will heal and soften both of you.
Do you need some inspiration? Visit Gini Grey's Insights & Inspiration.
Gini Grey's writings include the book: “From Chaos to Calm” (which can be purchased when you click on the image of the book cover here on the left - it will take you to Amazon to purchase the book)
Order your copy of From Chaos to Calm and be guided through the process of unhooking from unhealthy stress reactions and the underlying motives and payoffs for these so you can create your ideal balance and transform your life for the better.
Enjoy better health!